One of the most terrifying moments of a not-yet-married man’s life is meeting his girlfriend’s father. Part of the problem is trying to understand a father’s role in his daughter’s pursuit of marriage.

Donald Trump has once again creeped out the Internet, this time with a “so inappropriate” embrace of his daughter Ivanka.

The 34-year-old businesswoman and former model — Trump’s daughter with his Czech-born first wife Ivana — delivered a speech a the Republican National Convention at Cleveland’s Quicken Loans Arena on Thursday night.

Anyone who’s tried and failed to get married reads that simplicity with at least a little bit of longing. Wait for the day dad sends her to Minneapolis on a camel? While we can certainly learn about love and marriage from Isaac and Rebekah, I don’t think God intended it to be a manual for getting married in twenty-first-century America.

I do think, though, that we may be facing greater evils in our Christian homes today than handpicking fathers.

The wise dads relish the opportunity to develop a real, intentional, grace-and-truth relationship with the man who might be tasked with caring for their daughter for the rest of her life.

In the first pages of Scripture, we find that great love story of Isaac and Rebekah.

Dad might unfairly be expecting a lifetime of wisdom, maturity, independence, or faith from a twentysomething.

Either way, fathers need to hear that there are lots of young men who have believed the gospel, been rescued from much of the worldliness around them, are demonstrating trajectories of the fruit of the Spirit, but are still immature.

Demonstrate that you really want to get to know him, not just scare him away. Don’t be too proud to take some notes while you do.

It probably should be said here that you might consider giving the daughter you raised the benefit of the doubt that she picked well, at least before coming to any quick conclusions.

If discipleship — or “dating” your daughter’s boyfriend — sounds like it might be a more effective method than what you’ve tried (or intended to try), here are six pieces of counsel for engaging young men interested in your little girl.