This may involve feelings of emptiness or loneliness, alerting them to the fact that their independent projects may, in and of themselves, be insufficient for achieving the deeper sense of wholeness and contentment they desire.

This tug-of-war between their Ti and Fe is a central and recurrent dilemma for INTPs.

This represents a projection of INTPs’ inferior function’s desire to be valued and needed, and typically results in a poor outcome.

At some level, INTPs feel like they need people and want an intimate relationship, while on another, they are afraid of losing themselves and their cherished freedom if they commit. Most partners are reluctant to grant them the degree of freedom and autonomy they desire, leading them to try to control the INTP.

This of course, prompts the INTP to rebel, which causes the relationship to take a turn for the worse.

Such qualities, combined with their intelligence and ambitiousness, can be of great appeal to prospective partners.

Because of their Fe inferior, the INTP can enjoy being around people.

While the ISTP seeks novelty in the material realm (Se), the INTP seeks more abstract sorts of novelty (Ne).

Hence, INTPs look for partners who are intelligent, creative, and interested in personal growth.

While INTPs can be quite flexible when it comes to living arrangements, they often prefer a partner who can live on less rather than more.

Decisions to get married, have children, or purchase an expensive home can create a sense of obligation and diminished freedom that INTPs can come to regret.

The fact that INTPs can enjoy working independently for long periods of time may also discourage them from complicating their lives with relationships.

Despite this relative independence, there invariably comes a time when their inferior function (Fe) beckons them to be around people.

Financial commitments are especially offputting to INTPs who don’t make a lot of money or who are trying to limit time spent at a “day job.” Since many INTPs dream of having more time to pursue their personal interests, they tend to seek partners who are either financially independent or are content with a rather simple lifestyle.